One fine Thursday, after spending the week shuttling 3 pre-teen kids to different schools, friends’ homes, soccer practices, and study groups, all while coordinating groceries, laundry, toilet repair, and volunteer activities, Amy’s husband commented, “Wow, you went through a whole tank of gas in 4 days? That’s a lot for someone who doesn’t work.” Really? Coordinating all of those lives while keeping them fed, fresh, and focused isn’t work?
While most of us agree that being a full time mom with an active family certainly is work, the deeper question is: what’s next for Mom when those kids are off to high-school and college? How does a successful mom transition from home to the workplace when those hectic pre-teen days end? Kelly Walsh from 1SmartCareer has these tips for moving from Mom to Workplace Maven.
Investments for the Next Step
Invest in yourself. Make sure that you are up to date on current office programs like Microsoft Word, Excel, common email programs like Gmail. There are many free on-line tutorials that can serve as refreshers as necessary.
Invest time in your resume. Make sure that those PTO board and team mom activities are well documented. Don’t assume that all employers will discount volunteer and home-based positions, especially very responsible ones.
Invest in your work wardrobe slowly. Since workplaces are becoming much more casual, traditional business pieces can be mixed with casual pieces for a modern workplace look: dark washed jeans with a button-down top and a long necklace, a pencil skirt, flats and t-shirt, a cotton skirt and business heels. Seek the advice of friends and family who are in similar industries and borrow-shop their closets before making any substantial purchases.
Invest in a home security system. Crazy though it sounds, cameras and individualized access codes have the benefit of helping you to manage your teens while you are at work, while preventing those daytime break-ins when previously you were at home. (According to the FBI, 60% of reported home burglaries occur during the daytime when the homes are empty.)
Creating a Healthy Job Search Outlook
View your significant resume “hole” as your opportunity to explore your passions and successes. Don’t feel the need to retrace the career choices that you made straight out of college. The adage “Do what you love and you will never work another day in your life” is a clear instruction from those who have created careers from hobbies. Now you have life perspective that you may not have had before – put it to use! Allow what you have learned and loved during your “Mom” years to frame your job search in terms of your current passions and strengths.
View everything in your past as preparation for your future. Successfully navigating volunteer boards and parent organizations are very real allegories to surfing a corporate environment. Late nights on science projects and spelling homework create fierce attention to detail and ability to focus in adverse conditions. These skills are valuable, and if a future employer does not appreciate that, you probably don’t want to work for them anyway.
View the network that you created as a full-time mom as valuable. Most moms today return to the workforce at some point, and keeping in touch with women whom you respected as parents will probably land you in good company as they return to the workforce. Also, the career people whom you may have assisted in volunteer positions are a fantastic resource, since they have a familiarity with your work. Ask if they can recommend or hire you. At the very least, maintain relationships as you may need their reference one day.
View your first position back into the workforce as transitional, and choose one that will help you refresh your skills as well as provide opportunity for promotion. Understand that careers are pathways, not final resting spots.
Now That You’re There
Give yourself the same counsel that you gave your kids. It worked for them, right? Work hard, get your rest, make friends, do your homework, practice hard when no one else can see, seek opportunities to stand out, and approach each day as a fresh challenge.
Give YOURSELF consideration when making career decisions. While raising a family is primarily an other-focused occupation, successful careering requires some self-focus, and those who are not watching out for themselves can be taken advantage of. Don’t feel pressured to make all of your career related decision choices about your family. Taking on a high profile project that may require a bit of night and weekend work may be exactly what you crave and your career needs. Carve out time each week for personal reflection on what you want and how to get there.
Give your family the gift of self-sufficiency: create good snacking habits, carpool structures, laundry and cleaning schedules, easy dinner strategies and homework policies. Set limits on how many texts and phone calls are acceptable during work hours. Your kids will thank you when they get to college and already have the life-maintenance basics mastered.
While we will likely regard raising our family as the crowning achievement of our lives, the time we spend working can be worthwhile and gratifying as well. There is benefit to be derived from all of life’s experiences from wiping noses to boardroom presentations. The time you invested in your family will pay you back in spades both from having raised successful kids, and also from the new skills that it allowed you to explore for yourself.
Over the past 18 years, Kelly has successfully coached business leaders and people from all walks of life to reach their highest potential. With a Master’s in counseling, professional coach and mediation certifications, and 20 years of Human Resources experience, she has successfully helped others define their dreams and create pathways to success. She is the creator and owner of 1 Smart Life, LLC a new style of personal coaching with a team of experts in all of life’s challenging areas. And creator of 1 Smart Career, with a focus on the special needs of Executives and leadership development.